Relationship Assistant
Good intentions aren't enough.
Follow-through is.
You have good intentions. But life gets in the way, you forget the things that matter, and the relationship suffers — not because you don't care, but because you didn't have a system.
The Assistant is included with Relationship Pilot — £19.99/month. Start free with 5 messages.
You meant to plan something. But life happened.
You knew her birthday was coming. You had a vague plan for your anniversary. You meant to do something thoughtful last month. But you were busy. You forgot. You scrambled last-minute.
The relationship doesn't suffer because you don't care. It suffers because you don't have a system that turns good intentions into reliable follow-through.
What it does
A system that turns intentions into actions
The Relationship Assistant handles the remembering, the planning, and the prompting — so you can focus on showing up.
Partner Profile
Store your partner's name, birthday, preferences, favourite things, and important people. Everything in one place.
Proactive Reminders
Get notified before birthdays, anniversaries, and important dates — with enough time to actually do something.
Gift Suggestions
Based on your partner's preferences, the Assistant suggests thoughtful gifts. Not generic picks — tailored to what they actually like.
Important Dates
Partner's birthday, anniversary, parents' birthdays, key occasions. All tracked, all connected. Never miss what matters.
In practice
What it looks like when it's working
Sarah's birthday is approaching
Based on her profile, she likes photography and Italian food. Here are 3 gift ideas and a restaurant she hasn't been to yet.
Your anniversary is in 31 days
Last year you went to La Serra. Want to plan something different this year? Here are some ideas based on what you both enjoy.
Her mum's birthday
You saved a note that she likes gardening. You still have time to order something — here are a few options.
It's been 3 weeks
You haven't done anything specifically thoughtful recently. Here's a quick idea based on something she mentioned last month.
Start small. Benefit immediately. Grow over time.
Add the basics
Start with a name and one important date. That's enough to get your first reminder. No big setup required.
Get reminders before they matter
Before the birthday. Before the anniversary. With enough time to actually do something thoughtful — not scramble.
Add more as you go
Preferences, important people, gift history. The more you add, the smarter it gets — and the harder it becomes to imagine not having it.
Who this is especially good for
Busy people who care about their relationship but struggle to stay on top of the details
Men who've been told they're not thoughtful enough — and want to change that without it feeling like a chore
Partners who want to be consistent — not just great on special occasions, but reliable all year
Anyone who feels overwhelmed by the mental load of tracking dates, preferences, and expectations
Your partner's data stays private. Always.
Your partner's information is private, encrypted, and never shared with anyone. This is about being more thoughtful — not tracking or monitoring. Delete any information at any time. Your data stays yours.
Questions about the Assistant
I can just use a calendar for this.
Your calendar doesn't suggest gifts based on her preferences, remember her mother's birthday, or tell you what she's been hoping for. This does. And it's proactive — not just a list you have to remember to check.
Is this creepy?
No. It's what a thoughtful partner already does in their head — just organised and reliable. Your partner would be delighted to know you care enough to use it.
How much data do I have to enter to get value?
Start with a name and a birthday. That's enough for your first reminder. Add more when you think of it. The more it knows, the more it does for you.
Is my partner's data safe?
Yes. Everything is private, encrypted, and only accessible to you. We take relationship data privacy extremely seriously. You can delete any information at any time from your settings.
The Assistant is included with
Relationship Pilot — £19.99/month
One subscription includes the Counsellor, the Context & Memory layer, and the full Relationship Assistant. Start free with 5 messages — no card required.